Don’t Be A Rambler: The First Step is Preventionby Gen Merritt-Parikh
President, Allied Affiliated Funding
Have you ever realized that you’ve been talking forever and haven’t gotten to the point?! I was interested in this topic recently — for a number of reasons — so I read through a few articles online and then shared with our team. We thought, “Why not share with you, too?”
Side note, I’ve noticed when I’m not prepared, when I want someone to know the pain I went through or how awesome something is or not awesome something is, then I go through everything… Every. Single. Excruciating. Painful. Detail. of what I said, what they said, how they reacted or responded, how much time it took, and more… it’s like I wanted you to be there. Well, I did!
Unfortunately, we cannot all be in every conversation together. Instead, we have to share what happened without putting everyone else through the crazy. Sorry guys, since yes, I do this and so do you… it’s like when you try something that doesn’t taste good and then then say, “Here, try this!”How do you know if you’re guilty?
- Have you been talking for 5 or, even worse, 10 minutes and not yet made your point? That means… you’re rambling.
- When someone asks you a question, you focus on telling the story — not answering the question. Yep, you’re rambling.
- Did you go through all the details to tell the story and totally miss the headline… You are rambling. Yes, you are. For sure.
- Did you start a point and then… squirrel!… dang it… Rambling.
- You notice people are looking around or bored, fidgeting, starting side conversations, or trying to cut you off… you know it. You’re a rambler.
Start with the Point.
- Point (start with that)
- Reason (why it matters)
- Example (show why it matters)
- Summary (your recommendation/decision/etc)